4 Things Introverts find Absolutely Annoying (but don't actually say)
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Introverts are often misunderstood, and this can be quite annoying to them.
You may not be aware when you’re stepping on their toes or outright irritating them because of their reserved personalities.
If you want to get on their right side, you should know the things that annoy introverts the most.
Below are four of the biggest categories of things introverts dislike. We’ve also added an in-depth guide on why some extrovert behavior seems so annoying to introverts.
From handling what people might refer to as extreme extrovert problems to things introverts hate to hear, prepare to be educated on this personality type.
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4 Annoying Behaviors That Introverts Dislike
Mistaken assumptions about introverts.
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Introvert behavior is often misinterpreted because people believe these individuals are shy, socially awkward, and desperately need to be fixed. These misconceptions, however, are what introverts hate.
Introverts have withdrawn personalities and are not necessarily shy. Although some introverts can be shy, the timid trait doesn’t explicitly characterize the introverted personality.
Introverted people also need a level of comfortability before expressing themselves freely, which is why they may appear quiet. They are active thinkers and exquisite observers, making them more reserved than most individuals.
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Introverts also prefer to listen before they speak and don’t feel the need to prove themselves to others. Because of this reason, they don’t strive to correct people, especially extreme extroverts, when making assumptions about their personalities.
However, their silence doesn’t indicate compliance. Misjudgment irks introverts to their bones because these empathic individuals understand the essence of keenly observing before making conclusions.
If you’re around an introvert and feel the need to conclude why they’re quiet or less socially-inclined than others before observing, you might need to think again.
Doing that is the easiest way to make an introvert less motivated to open up to you or get comfortable around you.
Why? Because just like them, you need to take your time to understand and build a bankable relationship with before making conclusions about their personalities.
2. Being unnecessarily loud.
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Talking loudly is one of the things extroverts love, but sadly, is one of things that introverts hate. You may think that introverts generally don’t like the way extroverts relate – however, this isn’t the case.
An introvert’s dislike for loud noises is linked to how their brains function and not their disapproval of an extrovert’s temperaments. An introvert is generally more sensitive than the average individual. In other words, they naturally respond to stimuli more than most people.
According to research, an introvert might produce more saliva when lemon is placed on their tongues. Even so, they’re naturally more affected by loud noises. This notion is caused by the high level of brain activity in introverted people, and is the reason for their withdrawn personalities.
Studies have revealed that the frontal lobes of an introvert’s brain is more active than other people. To balance out the rate of activities occurring within, these soft-spoken individuals tend to prefer less-stimulating and peaceful external surroundings.
Therefore, an introvert won’t always be excited by loud noises. Even so, it might lead to overstimulation, which causes difficulty focusing, mental exhaustion, tiredness, stress, discomfort, anxiety, and etcetera.
They don’t hate extroverts’ mode of interaction; they merely dislike what it’ll do to their systems afterward. When with an introverted person, it would help if you thought about toning it down a notch.
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3. Being nosy.
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Introverts and personal space are two intertwined subjects because introverts love their personal space more than anything else. It comforts them, puts their minds at ease, and allows them to function optimally.
Many people tend to misconstrue this behavior and assume introverts generally dislike people. However, this notion isn’t true. Introverts don’t hate people; they merely enjoy what solitude offers them.
As seen in the previous point, overstimulation, which occurs when a person is overly immersed in an extreme activity for too long – either consciously or unconsciously, comes with some aftereffects.
The best way introverts combat these effects is to spend some time in solitude. Being alone or in a comfortable space helps an introvert’s sensory system to offload naturally. Thus, an introvert’s desire for some time alone is linked to their need to regain themselves.
However, it’s frank to confess that most introverts tend to over-do it and spend more time in solitude than they need to. They really don’t want to be alone all the time; but would gladly appreciate if you respect their personal space.
Things like prying, making intense eye contact, and forcibly getting too close are some of the things introverts dislike, especially when their systems are worked-up. On the bright side, if they get extremely comfortable around you, your presence won’t necessarily make them feel drained but might energize them, even if you’re an extreme extrovert.
People may ask, “Why do people hate introverts?” The truth is, they don’t hate them; they merely don’t understand these individuals. If you focus on getting to know introverts rather than forcing a way into their lives, you’ll be impressed by the connection made.
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4. Spontaneous acts.
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There’s an understandable reason why the spontaneous extrovert behavior is one of the things that bother people like introverts. Introverted people are calculated, which means they mentally prepare themselves for activities before they engage in them.
They do this by gauging how much they might enjoy an occasion; more so, if it’s relevant, and the effects it might have on their overall mental energy afterwards. These things introverts do make them less likely to enjoy impromptu actions like spontaneous phone calls, outings, plans, invitations, and spontaneous conversations.
In some cases, an introvert might be open to impulsive activities if there’s a level of fondness between you and them. When they have a perceived idea of how far things will go, they will be more willing to interrupt their schedule for you.
However, this isn’t the case for merely a stranger. If you can know certain things about introverts and build a solid relationship with them, you won’t annoy them as much as outsiders would.
To the introvert
To the introvert saying, “I hate being an introvert, or “I hate being introverted,” and is looking for how to be extroverted, understand that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you.
You might behave differently from others and may not thrive well in socially-inclined environments, but that doesn’t make you inferior.
You might not feel happy being an introvert because you feel too secluded; meanwhile, you want to burst out without restraints.
But each time you try to be more outgoing, you only face more mental fatigue, drawing you back into your comfort zone.
Therefore, you should know the beautiful truth about introversion — it’s within and in those little details that others are too busy to notice.
You don’t have to look outside before you can find some purpose. If you can pause and pay more attention to the world you have within, you’ll realize why you thrive more as an introvert than any other personality you could try to imitate.
To the angry introvert
To the angry introvert saying, “I hate extroverts,” or “extroverts are annoying,” firstly, you should understand that hate is a pretty strong word. Secondly, know that extroverts don’t think the way you do, so you should give them the benefit of the doubt.
Learning how to deal with an extrovert involves acknowledging that they might not understand your personality completely. There are many introverts dealing with extroverts in their daily lives, even with annoying extroverts.
Instead of getting pissed off, you should realize that these individuals would only appreciate your personality when they get to know you better. More so, it will help them get patient with you.
Many people ask why extroverts hate introverts. However, when there’s a level of familiarity built, this question can easily turn into, “Why do extroverts like introverts so much?”
The most important lesson on how to deal with extroverts is to hope they understand you with time instead of getting pissed at their behaviors.
To the angry extrovert
To the extrovert saying, “introverts are annoying,” or, “I hate introverts,” understand that these folks aren’t wired the same way you are. Secondly, as said earlier, hate is a pretty strong word.
Why are introverts so annoying to others? – Because they’re always real and can’t fake or hide their personality to impress people (even if they tried to). This trait might seem vexatious to some, but you’ll appreciate them more when you get to these individuals personally.
According to research, this quality is the reason why introverts build the most worthwhile associations and make exceptional life partners. Therefore, if you’re only interested in others not introverted, you might need to rethink that decision once you get to know an introvert.
FAQs
Why are people so annoying?
Science reveals that people with an affective presence can either light up your day or outright irritate you. Those with a negative affective presence turn out to be annoying, even when they aren’t trying to. Emotional issues are some of the other factors that might cause a person to be bothersome to others.
Why do questions irritate me?
If you often feel irritated by the questions people ask you, it could indicate that you’re not as outgoing as you thought. Therefore, their inquiries demotivate you, making you reluctant to answer. Your mood and several other factors can also affect why you perceive other people’s questions as irritating.
Why am I so annoying?
Everyone has one annoying trait or the other, which certain life factors might cause. Most times, we’re negligent of these behaviors, which means if you’re saying, “Why am I annoying? I feel like I annoy everyone,” or asking, “Hey, Google, am I annoying?” it could hint that you’re somewhat overly-critical of yourself.
What to do when an introvert is angry?
Introverts are often misunderstood, and this can get them angry. But do introverts get annoyed easily? The answer is no. Introverts aren’t expressive with their anger, so if they shut down, it’s one of the signs you’re annoying him or her. It would help if you gave them some space and talked about the situation much later.
Why do extroverts try to change introverts?
Extroverts are outgoing individuals that love to socialize, even with those that don’t necessarily interact on the same level as they do. For this reason, they’re more willing to change their less socially-inclined friends (introverts) without necessarily considering why they behave the way they do.
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CONCLUSION
Did you enjoy this article on things introverts hate? Remember that if an introvert tells you, “You’re annoying me,” you shouldn’t try to bombard them instantly with more questions.
Give them some space and try to understand the situation slowly and more intricately. Kindly leave a comment below or share this article with others if you liked it.
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